Style is the science of knowing what to wear, when and how. Dress etiquette can be defined similarly. Often, the when and the where are dictated by the who. That is, whoever planned the event, and the type of atmosphere they would like to deliver to their guests. However, often, the wishes of the host are disregarded by the guests. Sometimes this happens intentionally and sometimes without intent.
5. Don't be a show off
Ignoring the dress code goes both ways. Over dressing intentionally is just as bad if not worse that being underdressed because of the ease in with you can dress down a suit. Remove the tie and jacket and you are nearly casual. In addition, no one likes a show off. Plus, you will look very silly in a tuxedo at a BBQ.
4. The dress code doesn't care how much you spent
I've been to several charity events where there is a donation requirement to attend. Often at these events, I'll see men, who have donated freely, dressed below the required dress code for the event. I've heard some of these men justify their under-dressing because of the amount of money they've donated. If you choose to attend the event and to pay its costs, be respectful enough to follow its dress code, just like everyone else that paid.
Speaking of everyone else....
3. Do the right thing
There will be people who ignore the dress code. It always happens. Some people also ignore the "no diving" sign at a pool but that doesn't make it a good idea. Listen, if you were planing an event that had a theme, and no one showed up honoring that theme, you'd feel some way about it. Show the host the same courtesy. Do the right thing regardless of what you think others are going to do.
2. Yes you should own a suit
Sport jacket and slacks are not a formalwear. Neither are khakis and a polo or your best pants and button up shirt. These are not substitutes for a suit any more than meatloaf is a substitute for a steak. If these are your go to outfits for any event such as a wedding, funeral, job interview or anything called a Gala or a Formal, you my friend need to buy a suit. It doesn't have to be a $1000 suit, just something clean and appropriate that fits. If you can't afford to purchase a suit, make it a goal to do so and consider renting one in the meantime.
1. The dress code for an event should be considered the rule
If you have registered high enough on someone's social scale to merrit an invite to their event, you should respect their plan. This includes starting time, approved guests (if invitation says no children, respect that) and the required dress. If you do not intend to honor their wishes, simply decline the invitation or speak to the host if you require special arrangements.
Here is a quick reference guide to dress etiquette definitions:
White Tie: Black Tuxedo with tails, white vest and bowtie
Black Tie: Black Tuxedo, Black bowtie
Formal: Dark Suit, Preferably Black or Charcoal
Business: Dark Suit, Black Charcoal or Navy
Business Casual: Blazer or Sportcoat and slacks
Dress Casual: Blazer or Sportcoat with jeans, or with slacks but no tie. Khakis with a collared shirt fit here also
Casual: Chinos, jeans, polos, and collared shirts.
Tips: If attending an event that actually has a dress code listed, it is never appropriate to wear shorts. If in doubt, call the host for clarification.
Here is a link with a more in-depth discussion of dress etiquette
http://www.blacktieguide.com/Etiquette/Etiquette_Formal_Codes.htm
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